September 14, 2012
The Honey Bees teach us a valuable lesson!
For the 16 months I was a beekeeper in 2008-09, I learned an important lesson on how to approach bees. I think it’s a wisdom picture to help us draw closer to those who are dying.
After loading up with the beehive tools I would need, I would drive to the hives just outside the city limits. This gave me enough time to check in with myself. I would review what exactly I was doing at the hives. Then and most importantly, I would check in with my inner self.
How was I? Hmmm, well, perhaps I was feeling hot, and a bit frustrated. Maybe about the time it was going to take to visit today. Maybe I was annoyed about something that happened earlier in my day. Maybe I was nervous about what I had to do. Maybe I was thinking about something someone had said earlier. Maybe I was thinking ahead to making supper when I returned home. Or about something I forgot to do, or …I think you get the idea.
These are great things to notice BEFORE you arrive at the beehives! You can’t afford to do this while you are with the bees. Why? Because they can tell when you are not really ‘present’ for them. It’s kind of hard to explain. It’s a sense one develops about your relationship with them.
It’s kind of like entering their space, their territory, if you like. It’s like being a guest in witnessing their world in nature. It’s a privilege, very profound, sacred. The bees invite one to be truly present with them. You need to be calm, for them, which in turn is really for you. It’s a gift they give you, if you can be present with them. To enter their space. To be touched inwardly by them. Not outwardly (as in being stung!)
To do this well, you need to let go of your own ‘stuff’. Before you get there.
It’s like putting on your own oxygen mask, like on the airplane, before you can help someone else.
It’s how to get closer to one who is dying. To notice how you are, before you visit. To pay attention in your own heart. So you can be present with your loved one. No matter how they are.
So what do you think of the need to ‘check-in’ with yourself before you visit your loved one?